During one of my talking therapy sessions for PND, I had one of my negative cycles pointed out. It was quite enlightening, and such a lightbulb moment. So often we get caught up in these cycles without even realising, because we are too focused on the bigger picture. Sometimes, it is the smaller things that can do the most damage.
So what was mine? The use of the word should. I should be getting on with some housework instead of sitting in front of the TV. I should start eating healthier and doing some exercise. I should make sure that I’m not spending too much time on my phone when I should be entertaining my child instead. Should should should. I spoke to myself in such a way that I rebelled and ended up doing nothing at all.
To think more positively is such a big step in the right direction. It’s the difference between caring and respecting yourself and working yourself into the ground. So which words and phrases are the main culprits?
- I should – This is what everyone else would do.
- I need – Everything will fall apart if this doesn’t happen.
- Don’t forget – What happens if I forget? What if?
- I can’t – I will only fail
Next time, choose kinder words. I could, I can, I will, I want, I like.
Which negative words do you frequently use? How do they make you feel?